Love is not hate.

I can’t listen to the intro track to Jay Z’s MCHG, I skip it. Why on earth would you let someone take the food out your mouth? Why would you let them take the air out your lungs? Curse my name and I letcha? NO. Shirt off my back…. ok maybe you can have that, but that’s where it stops. 


Don’t know if she’s coming or going? One day you’re here, one day you’re there… so unfair. 


“And I still dont know whyyyyyy I love you so badddd” – *Timberlake croons*


I’m sorry, but I need a better reason than “I don’t know”. How about “I love her because she doesn’t curse my name, but she holds it to the highest standard… and she’s proud to wear my name… she’s proud to say HIM… that’s MY man!”


How about “He wouldn’t dare take the air out of my lungs because he knows I have a moderate/severe case of asthma. Matter of fact he keeps my inhaler on deck.”


Give me better reasons than “I still don’t know why”… It’s probably that sauce that you’re lost in… that’s usually why. Don’t want to believe it huh? Take that sauce away… see if they still love you.


Newsflash: Sex isn’t love. 


I’m good man. I will completely pass on anyone who isn’t completely sure about how they feel about me. I don’t want to be so deep in love one day and fighting the next. That thin line between love and hate? Who does that? That’s for damaged people who aren’t completely sure on how they feel about themselves, so how can they be completely sure how they feel about another? How do you go from talking about baby names and planning your dream wedding to “I’m not sure” in less than 24 hours. How do we go from “Even when it got hard, we still made it through….Is it always easy? No, but I would rather be here with you than anyone else.” To… “I don’t want to be here” in a matter of days? I spent 30 days begging someone not to go and another 30 days begging to come back. No explanations. No shame in it, no bitterness. Only lessons learned… like this one: Whoever told you that’s how love works lied. 


That’s a love/ hate relationship. If you were wise? You would do anything in your power to avoid it, because when the stronger the love gets, the stronger the hate becomes, and the thinner that line is. Then I was blessed enough to encounter love without the hate… I didn’t even know it existed. But I can tell you that it’s my preference. I can tell you that type of love only afflicts the heart, not the wallet, not the status, not the things you can provide (rest haven). No, that love is reserved for the type of man or woman who loves you entirely, flaws and all. Trainwreck in the morning… 


Whoever told you that you could be in love with two people at once [Chris Brown/ Karreuche/ Rihanna] LIED… New Rule: Either you give me 100% of your love or none at all. I’m not interested in sharing, or secret lovers tucked away in the closet, or indecisiveness. I give you all, you give me all in return. Because here it is: There are no amounts to love. Only the presence or absence. How can you be here but not be here? That’s a waste of everyone’s time… next time just call in sick. I love myself enough that I don’t need the 50% from the next person to make up for what I lack.


Find you a partner, who is willing to go all the way with you. Who most importantly is completely satisfied with themselves. No amount of flattery will ever fulfill another person, only nurture and encouragement to continue to love themselves and remain comfortable with themselves. Work it out for whatever is fair and whatever works for the two of you. They SHOW you with their actions, you can keep all words to yourselves. Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting. Actions? Actions are unmistakable. 



I’m solely interested in love/ love relationships. You love me when I’m good AND you love me when I’m bad. You love me when I’m up AND you love me when I’m down. You love me when I’m in a Cadillac AND you love me when I’m on the train. You love me when I’m healthy AND you love me when I’m sick. No running to strangers telling them our secrets… Gossip says more about you than it does the person you’re speaking about. Loyalty on the other hand? Keeps the secrets just that, secret. No in between, no gray area…. that’s for suckers only. 


Shout out to women that are woman enough to stick by their man’s side through it all, no love for those who go looking elsewhere when things get tough. What part of loyalty is that? Ray Allen went to Miami to get a ring… yeah he got the ring and he hit the game winning shot too… but I wonder how well he sleeps at night knowing that he sold out the fans of Boston… or is his side of the story that Boston sold him out? The big 3 wasn’t cuttin’ it so he went to the bigger 3??


I get it, it’s just business. It’s not about friendship or camaraderie or loyalty, this is a game of dollars and cents for many. “What can you do for me?… What have you done for me lately?” It’s a game of love for few. 



*Jerry McGuire Voice*

Show me the love. 

You can’t handle the love. 








4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

That’s it… that in itself is the love; I don’t see anything about hate. Can you handle it?


I need that on the run type… hold your heart and your gun (and your bible) type love. I need that push me, uplift me, support me, teach me, inspire me, LOVE ME for ME. 



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