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Keys to the City

Do you suffer from fear of greatness?


It’s ok, there’s so many people out there just like you. Terrified of the idea of being great. You think so lowly of yourselves, think that you must fit in with everyone else, become the failures of those who surround you. You allow your limitations to define you, instead of using them to elevate you. 


I’m just thinking out loud here… I wonder how the the first lock smith came about. I’d imagine he encountered a locked door, or lost his keys, or maybe even he was up to no good; yet still, that locked door did not stop him from reaping his reward. That’s how it is in life, so many of us see an obstacle, a locked door, and we turn and go home saying “The door was locked, it wasn’t mean to be”. 


How bad do you want it is the question????


Sometimes the door isn’t even locked, it’s just closed, but you’ll never know until you turn the handle. Sometimes you’ve got the key already on your keyring, but you never know until you try it. Sometimes you can be the locksmith, but you never know until you try it. 


Honestly? If it were me… and the only thing stopping me from getting to my legacy were a measly door…. I’m bringing out the key to the city.


Is this what comes to mind when you think key to the city?




That’s what I figured…


I’m talking about the militaristic Zero Dark 30 keys… breaching the door down. 


Nothing can stop me from being great. If God is for me, who can be against me? A locked door. **scoffs**




“Charge is checked… CLEAR”


 “How dare you get in my way you puny little door?”

Be persistent, be motivated, be encouraged. Stop making excuses for why you can’t be great. “Oh well the door was locked so it wasn’t meant to be” Replace those excuses for reasons why you can and will be great.


See that’s the difference between good and great, mice and men. Mice are going to come up with every reason why it’s not meant to be and why they can’t achieve. Why they’re not destined to be great. Why the situation or the relationship wont work. But men, like the man I wish to be, like the engineer that I am? I’m going to go get the C4 and blow that door of the hinges…. not even going to be polite about it. I’m going to come up with every possible way to make it work.


You are your own limitations. Your “can’t do” mindset is 99% of the time the only thing that’s stopping you. 


I wan’t to tell a funny story about how I made the varsity basketball team. Because I actually didn’t make the team. Honestly. I went to tryouts, I showed up on time, I’d played JV 3 years prior, my [pro basketball player] dad knew the coach, I worked my ass off, but when it came down to the 12 people that made the cut… I didn’t.


But I was damned determined to make the team. So when the list was posted… after the initial disbelief, I grabbed a pen and wrote on the [printed] sheet 

13. Craig Sutters

And surely enough I showed up to practice that day. And the next day. And the next day. The coach laughed at me… the players laughed at me… but yo…. I made that damn team and I got a jersey and I rode the bench, maybe averaged 2 points for the season. It’s not that I was “that bad” but our team was “that good”, ended up making it pretty far through the state finals. Until playing a team who [allegedly] had the ref’s on their side, on their home court… they shot 18 freethrows in a half… to our none. We couldn’t buy a foul. But oh well. Life happens.


Never let anyone tell you “no” when they don’t have the power to tell you “yes”

That’s how I live my life, that’s one of my golden rules. Most importantly, never have the self defeating mindset that you cannot achieve. Many times you don’t even know what you’re capable of. That’s why the #basicinstructions say “Walk by faith, not by sight”. There’s so many possibilities in this world that you couldn’t even fathom. Reason: You’re only able to think of things under your own understanding, based on the experiences that you’ve gone through, the knowledge that you currently possess. Dream big, then dream bigger, God will guide you to wherever you wish to go… through that door, over that obstacle. 


There’s a line out the door of people who told me I couldn’t do many of the things that I’ve done. I love you all. Your doubt is my inspiration. Someone told me I couldn’t work management at a Fortune 500 company without a degree. I love proving you wrong. Maybe, you’ll see that you can’t doubt me to death. Maybe the naysayers will spend their negative energy and use it as positivity in themselves. I mean negativity is primarily hurting the person that spews it out. 


Understand that your lack of faith in yourself is incapable of rubbing off on me. I’m going to always be that guy who will show you that I can set my mind to something and achieve. I’m going to kill you with kindness along the way.


Here’s another belief that I’d like to share, there’s negative energy and positive energy. You have so much time, effort, ability that you can exert in a given day. If you give 100% to positive, you’re so much more likely to succeed. All negativity is against you. Replace negativity with positivity. Reduce that drag. Imagine if you were in a car, you’re mashing the gas, but have your foot on the brakes at the same time. That’s what you’re doing when you thing negatively, you’re slowing yourself down, you’re keeping yourself from your full potential. You’re trying to win right? Why wouldn’t you mash the gas and use race fuel and have the spoilers set and windows rolled up to reduce drag and hit every shift perfectly? You’re trying to win right?






The first step to winning is believing that you can win. The second step is to stop sabotaging yourself by holding back. The third and final step is to give it your all and win. How many people told Barack Obama he couldn’t be president? How many people told Steve Jobs he couldn’t change the world? These are Gods creations too. Believe it or not.


This is how I feel about everything in life, most certainly relationships. So when I ask you “Do you want to give it a shot?” don’t tell me “It might not work because….” that defeated thinking has already lost. We already broke up. If you go into it thinking every reason why it can and will work… then we’re already living happily ever after. If and when we do encounter setbacks and obstacles, we’re looking for ways to make it work, ways to win together. I know one… God. I mean God is love right?


I mean God is love right?

I mean God is love right?

I mean God is love right?


Everytime you say “What if…?” you’d better be saying it in the most positive light possible. “What if we stay together forever?… What if I DO get the job?…. What if I DO make it to the league?”

Damn the don’t.

Dare to be great. Dare to succeed. Dare to do things that have never done before.


Ask yourself with complete honesty: Are you more scared to fail or are you just scared to succeed?


Love only. Love Always.

Why I pray everyday.



I was raised in the church like many of us were.

I strayed away around college age, like many of us did.

 But last October while sitting in a waiting room at the local clinic, I was reading a GQ interview with Denzel Washington. He said a very important piece that reminded me, being a God fearing man is still “cool” and highly respectable.





Yes, Frank Lucas… Alonzo.. Hurricane… Book of Eli Washington reads the bible and prays daily. Now so do I. 


Secondly, I appreciate that he used his platform to inspire and make someone better, rather than say… Lil Wayne?

It took me a while to accept that God is really the only way I want to go to reach success, love, legacy, peace, happiness.

Who are your idols? Who inspires you? What are you doing to become a better person? A more successful person?


BE VARY WEARY OF WHAT YOU FEED YOURSELF AND WHO YOU ALLOW TO INFLUENCE YOU. The laws of association are real. Surround yourself with positivity and people who expect more of themselves. 








I Also had the privilege to hear President Barack Obama speak, he went down the same course… “Remove excuses” was a major piece of his message as well as expect more of yourselves and make anyone who looks up to you expect more from themselves. 





Replace excuses with solutions.



Here’s the excerpt and link to full interview. 


Also, what on earth do I have to do to be this Fresh???

Me and my tailor need to have a talk.





Reading my book… “Becoming a person of influence”


I see these quotes as I’m reading and I immediately think of the last thing I stole.

I’m not a klepto [anymore], but I used to take things just because. With some b/s justification for why I did it, usually for the thrill, sometimes just because. “Well I already checked out and didn’t feel like getting back in line to spend $1”. There’s no justification for it. It’s allover the bible and my conscience and society that it’s unacceptable. It also supports the stereotype against black males being thieves. Great work self.

Well in this particular case, I stole basically a really big piece of paper. $1.29

We’d spent close to $150 on everything that day and I decided I wanted to add one more thing to the list. The guy checking us out overlooked it, I know he did. But I did not say anything, I just let him proceed to bag it. I know exactly where I got this bad habit from but that doesn’t make it ok. I then went on to tell her about some more little knick knacks that I got away with. It was wrong. I knew it was wrong. I know even though I got away with it, I was being watched.

I remember confessing to her. Ohhhh you should’ve seen the disappointment/ judgment on her face. It sucked. I felt like crap. I know I was wrong. I could tell she thought less of me after that. It never feels good to disappoint the people you care about. I was definitely a bad guy when I met her. She definitely stuck to her promise of changing my life. My goodness, God puts people in your life for a reason.

Then I read the next paragraph in of the chapter….

“Theft is theft whether it’s $1 or $1,000.”

Without a firm foundation of trust, there is nothing. If you can’t be trusted with the little things then you can’t be trusted at all. I think back to small things like why she never gave me her PIN numbers or passwords, I mean it makes all the sense in the world. As much as I wanted to do the right thing, I didn’t always do it.

I’ve been stolen from before… I’ve stolen before. It’s a cycle. You get deceivingly and and you get got.

Here’s the recurring theme in my journey. I’m not perfect, but endlessly chasing perfection. Every single day, I learn something about myself that I wish to improve upon, and I work to improve it.

It starts at rebuilding my integrity from the ground floor.

I feel I need to add something, I AM FIXING MYSELF. Hopefully my honesty helps fix someone else. Just because I’m reading the bible daily and working to better myself doesn’t mean that I automatically become a lame. No, I’m just more focused on what matter and more determined to be successful. I’ve wasted so much time chasing pleasure in the name of “being young” ok… well now that I know better. Can I just start to chase my dreams? Find love again, maybe find a wife? I think the only way to do it is through the God. That’s just me though.

So this Abe Lincoln excerpt really stood out to me. Yes, I’ve seen so much adversity, now I think about how do I act while in power. How have I acted in power? I’d like to think that I do well and I’m fair in all my doings. But I know my character is flawed, so is my integrity. Moving to the George Bush portion of the block quote: If the world followed me would it be a better world?

I don’t have an answer for that… yet. But I intend for the answer to be YES. Becoming the change that I wish to see in the world. Don’t judge me for who I used to be & the mistakes I’ve made, judge me only for who I am and who I strive to become.

Still reading…

My favorite excerpt would be the DON’T HAVE A PRICE.

I don’t care what people tell you to do, you need to decide early that you can’t be bought. Especially never sell your integrity for revenge. You only hurt yourself when trying to hurt others. Even if you don’t trust me, I know.

Major in the minor things. This goes back to that $1. This goes back to me doing my 30 days of no drinking. I want to drink right now because I’m close… but I’m not there yet. Just a few more hours man.. I’ve made it this far, why not? Do what you SHOULD do before you do what you WANT to do? An amazing method of remaining productive and getting things done. The best part of it all? You don’t dread the work that awaits you when you come home.

I think of how screwed I would’ve been if I hadn’t uploaded a job to a client before leaving the house and not coming home for a whole weekend. GET SH*T DONE.

Love Only. Love Always.